What are we supposed to do when we get offended and hurt by someone we love and respect? I have experienced this so many times, but specifically in the workplace. For most people the workplace is where you spend most of your time. So when you become viewed as something you're not, it hurts badly.
When I was working for a company I had this happen to me. I am the kind of person who wants to get along with everyone and wants everyone to like me and respect me for my hard work and dedication. There was this one lady who, for some reason I still don’t know, had it in for me. Nothing I did was good enough and she made it known to the entire workplace. She would belittle me and yell so everyone would hear me getting in trouble. She would even call out mistakes, that I didn’t even do. She would talk behind my back to other staff and tarnish my reputation. I put up with this for six years. It hurt me so badly and made my experience working there miserable at times.
What we can learn here are a couple things. Number one, if I would have had a clear and honest conversation with her from the beginning, maybe the next six years would have gone differently. However, I am horrible at confrontation and didn’t want to cause more conflict so I thought it was best to sweep it under the rug. Thankfully, I have gotten better at having hard conversations over the years. But, now I work for myself and don’t have to deal with too many of these situations (thank GOD!).
Number two, we must try to move forward with integrity and honesty knowing we are doing the best we can and trust God that He will make it known of who you are and whose you are. Let us zoom out and see the bigger picture, the picture that God sees. Then we can stand up straight with our shoulders back and feel confident in our worth.
Never ever let anyone define your worth and talents. God is the one who wove you together in your mother's womb. He created such a masterpiece, that He marvels down at you and His perfect works. Don’t give others the power that only God holds.
Stay encouraged, smile, be kind, work hard, love hard, and KNOW YOUR WORTH In Jesus Name!
Here are some scriptures that helped me, and hopefully will help you as well.
James 1:2-4 (ESV): "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
Isaiah 54:11-17 (MSG): “Afflicted city, storm-battered, unpitied: I’m about to rebuild you with stones of turquoise, Lay your foundations with sapphires, construct your towers with rubies, Your gates with jewels, and all your walls with precious stones. All your children will have God for their teacher—what a mentor for your children! You’ll be built solid, grounded in righteousness, far from any trouble—nothing to fear! far from terror—it won’t even come close! If anyone attacks you, don’t for a moment suppose that I sent them, And if any should attack, nothing will come of it. I create the blacksmith who fires up his forge and makes a weapon designed to kill. I also create the destroyer—but no weapon that can hurt you has ever been forged. Any accuser who takes you to court will be dismissed as a liar. This is what God’s servants can expect. I’ll see to it that everything works out for the best.” God’s Decree.
Blessings & Love,
Nikki Wright